{"id":25,"date":"2012-04-04T09:58:50","date_gmt":"2012-04-04T01:58:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mylast365days.com\/?p=25"},"modified":"2014-01-11T03:34:16","modified_gmt":"2014-01-11T03:34:16","slug":"15-things-you-should-give-up-to-be-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alfredrocks.com\/blog\/15-things-you-should-give-up-to-be-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"15 Things You Should Give Up to be Happy"},"content":{"rendered":"

Source: http:\/\/www.purposefairy.com\/3308\/15-things-you-should-give-up-in-order-to-be-happy\/<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Sunset\"<\/a><\/p>\n

I wanted to post this list on my blog because I think there are some really good messages and also just in case that link goes bad I wanted to share these 15 things so it would act as a reminder to work towards letting go.<\/p>\n

Remember to let go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering \u2013 and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy \u2013 we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:<\/p>\n

1. Give up your need to always be right.<\/strong> There are so many of us who can\u2019t stand the idea of being wrong \u2013 wanting to always be right \u2013 even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It\u2019s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the \u2018urgent\u2019 need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: \u201cWould I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?\u201d Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?<\/p>\n

2. Give up your need for control.<\/strong> Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you \u2013 situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street \u2013 just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
\n\u201cBy letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.\u201d Lao Tzu<\/p>\n

3. Give up on blame.<\/strong> Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don\u2019t have, for what you feel or don\u2019t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.<\/p>\n

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.<\/strong> Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don\u2019t believe everything that your mind is telling you \u2013 especially if it\u2019s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
\n\u201cThe mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.\u201d Eckhart Tolle<\/p>\n

5. Give up your limiting beliefs<\/strong> about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
\n\u201cA belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind\u201d Elly Roselle<\/p>\n

6. Give up complaining.<\/strong> Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things \u2013 people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It\u2019s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.<\/p>\n

7. Give up the luxury of criticism.<\/strong> Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.<\/p>\n

8. Give up your need to impress others.<\/strong> Stop trying so hard to be something that you\u2019re not just to make others like you. It doesn\u2019t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you\u2019re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.<\/p>\n

9. Give up your resistance to change.<\/strong> Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change \u2013 don\u2019t resist it.
\n\u201cFollow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls\u201d Joseph Campbell<\/p>\n

10. Give up labels.<\/strong> Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don\u2019t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. \u201cThe highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don\u2019t know anything about.\u201d Wayne Dyer<\/p>\n

11. Give up on your fears.<\/strong> Fear is just an illusion, it doesn\u2019t exist \u2013 you created it. It\u2019s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
\n\u201cThe only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.\u201d Franklin D. Roosevelt<\/p>\n

12. Give up your excuses.<\/strong> Send them packing and tell them they\u2019re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses \u2013 excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.<\/p>\n

13. Give up the past.<\/strong> I know, I know. It\u2019s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for \u2013 the past that you are now dreaming about \u2013 was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.<\/p>\n

14. Give up attachment.<\/strong> This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it\u2019s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn\u2019t mean you give up your love for them \u2013 because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love\u2026 well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can\u2019t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.<\/p>\n

15. Give up living your life to other people\u2019s expectations.<\/strong> Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people\u2019s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need\u2026.and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life \u2013 this one right now \u2013 you must live it, own it, and especially don\u2019t let other people\u2019s opinions distract you from your path.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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