{"id":153,"date":"2011-03-08T14:24:40","date_gmt":"2011-03-08T14:24:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/mylast365days.com\/?p=153"},"modified":"2014-01-11T05:23:37","modified_gmt":"2014-01-11T05:23:37","slug":"27-life-lessons-learned-by-age-27-bonus-age-50-advice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alfredrocks.com\/blog\/27-life-lessons-learned-by-age-27-bonus-age-50-advice\/","title":{"rendered":"27 Life Lessons Learned by Age 27 (Bonus age 50 advice)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Alf<\/a><\/p>\n

I got a list of life lessons from www.marcandangel.com which covered 26 life lessons by age 26. Well… I am going to add one to that list. I am sure that there are a few other life lessons I could add in, but this list resonated with me so I wanted to share it with everyone.<\/p>\n

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  1. Being an adult can be fun when you are acting like a child.<\/li>\n
  2. Love has nothing to do with looks, but everything to do with time, trust, and interest.<\/li>\n
  3. Laughing, crying, joy and anger\u2026 All are a vital.\u00a0 All make us human.<\/li>\n
  4. The greatest truths in life are uncovered with simple, steady awareness.<\/li>\n
  5. Greed will bury even the lucky eventually.<\/li>\n
  6. Bad things do happen to good people.<\/li>\n
  7. Paving your own road is intelligent only if nobody has gone exactly where you are going.<\/li>\n
  8. Uncertainty is caused by a lack of knowledge.\u00a0 Hesitation is the product of fear.<\/li>\n
  9. Time heals all wounds\u2026 regardless of how you feel right now.<\/li>\n
  10. Most of the time what you are looking for is right in front of you.<\/li>\n
  11. Your health is your life.<\/li>\n
  12. Chance is a gift, so act on chance when given the opportunity.<\/li>\n
  13. Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence.<\/li>\n
  14. People deserve a second chance, but not a third.<\/li>\n
  15. Marry your best friend.<\/li>\n
  16. Take lots of pictures.\u00a0 Someday you\u2019ll be really glad you did.<\/li>\n
  17. Money makes life easier only when the money is yours free and clear.<\/li>\n
  18. Carelessness is the root of failure<\/li>\n
  19. Your actions now create memories you will reminisce and talk about in your elder years.<\/li>\n
  20. Stepping outside of your comfort zone will put things into perspective from an angle you can\u2019t grasp now.<\/li>\n
  21. Motivation comes in short bursts.\u00a0 Act while it\u2019s hot.<\/li>\n
  22. Purposely ignoring the obvious is like walking backwards toward the enemy.<\/li>\n
  23. Taking ownership of failure builds the foundation for success.<\/li>\n
  24. First impressions are completely worthless 50% of the time.<\/li>\n
  25. Personal glory lasts forever.<\/li>\n
  26. If you never act, you will never know for sure.<\/li>\n
  27. In life, you always have more than one choice.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    ————<\/p>\n

    …and as a BONUS.. from the SAME blog I found this guest post. Now, since I am not 50 yet I can’t say that I know or feel all of these things, but I already think it sounds like great advice and I would love to look back at my post 20-30 years from now and re-read these following tips.<\/p>\n

    This is a guest post by Barrie Davenport of\u00a0Live Bold and Bloom<\/a>\u00a0posted on\u00a0<\/em>Marc and Angel Hack Life<\/a>.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

    For anyone under 50 reading this, I have some good news for you.\u00a0 50 is pretty darned good!<\/strong><\/p>\n

    I even surprise myself by writing this, because believe me, I never thought the day would come when I would embrace being half a century.\u00a0 But it has arrived, and it doesn\u2019t stink.<\/p>\n

    Yes, yes \u2014 there are the inevitable physical changes that are quite unsettling.\u00a0 Things do start to droop, wrinkle and expand.\u00a0 Sometimes you will catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and wonder who that middle-aged person is.\u00a0 On the outside, you may look like a grown-up, but on the inside it\u2019s crazy how you still feel like you are 30.\u00a0 Or younger.\u00a0 (Ask my teenagers.\u00a0 They hate that about me.)<\/p>\n

    When I was in my 30\u2019s and 40\u2019s, I took life much more seriously.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    In fact, I think I was mysteriously older then than I am now.\u00a0 Is that possible?\u00a0 When you are busy building a career, raising children, accumulating stuff, and creating a lifestyle, you are defined by that busyness.\u00a0 It\u2019s serious work.\u00a0 You have to make money to pay for the lifestyle.\u00a0 Your kids need to be raised right lest they become a scourge on society and embarrass you by living in a trailer and eating bugs.<\/p>\n

    Those years are fulfilling and wonderful, but they also are fraught with upheaval and angst.\u00a0 Things that once didn\u2019t matter when you were younger, like having the right cocktail napkins or winning yard of the month, somehow matter so very much.\u00a0 We struggle toward some kind of perfection and achievement that is \u2018out there\u2019 somewhere.<\/p>\n

    I don\u2019t know about you, but I have spent a lot of time trying to create the self I thought I should be.\u00a0 I cobbled together the perfect me made from pieces of this and that.\u00a0 The clothes I wear, the neighborhood we live in, the car I drive, the friends I have.\u00a0 It looks pretty nice from the outside.\u00a0 And much of it is nice on the inside too.<\/p>\n

    But I spent way, way too much time in the work of crafting myself, and far too little time just being myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    When you are spinning your wheels to maintain this beautifully crafted life, you miss out on a whole lot of real living.<\/p>\n

    If I were able to time travel and visit my twenty or thirty-year-old self, there are some things I would really like to teach me.\u00a0 Since I can\u2019t do that, hopefully you will benefit from some of the lessons I\u2019ve learned over the last 50 years.<\/p>\n

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    1. 50 doesn\u2019t feel like 50.<\/strong>\u00a0It doesn\u2019t feel like the age you imagined when you are in your 20\u2019s or 30\u2019s.\u00a0 For the most part, it feels the way you feel right now.\u00a0 But smarter and more confident.\u00a0 You also have more time and resources to enjoy life.\u00a0 So don\u2019t fear it.\u00a0 Look forward to it.<\/li>\n
    2. Experience life before you settle down.<\/strong>\u00a0Whatever it is you want to do or experience, do as much of it as you can before you have children.\u00a0 Especially travel.\u00a0 Live in a hovel and drive a beat-up Dodge Dart if you have to.\u00a0 But go have some really great, amazing, mind-blowing experiences.<\/li>\n
    3. Money and stuff are not all that important.<\/strong>\u00a0Yes, you want enough to be comfortable and do the things you want to do.\u00a0 But accumulating for the sake of accumulating is so boring and empty.\u00a0 Feed the soul, not the ego.<\/li>\n
    4. Don\u2019t try to impress people.<\/strong>\u00a0That\u2019s an act that brings nothing but a momentary ego boost.\u00a0 Be real with people instead.\u00a0 Connect with fewer people on a level that is deeper and more profound.<\/li>\n
    5. Let your kids fail.\u00a0<\/strong>Your kids will be okay, even if you think they are headed for the juvie right now.\u00a0 Don\u2019t come to their rescue all the time.\u00a0 Don\u2019t manage every detail of their lives or over-schedule them with tao quan dao or viola lessons.\u00a0 Give them some boundaries, and then relax about them.<\/li>\n
    6. Bad things will happen.<\/strong>\u00a0Part of living and getting older is experiencing upheavals in life.\u00a0 People lose jobs, get divorced, die.\u00a0 When you are younger, and things have gone pretty well, this can be shocking.\u00a0 The bad things won\u2019t kill you.\u00a0 You will learn from them if you allow it.<\/li>\n
    7. Not much is worth fighting about.<\/strong>\u00a0If you can avoid it, don\u2019t fight.\u00a0 Step back from arguments with your spouse or family member or neighbor.\u00a0 When you feel anger surging up and you want to say that snarky thing on the tip of your tongue, just close your mouth and walk away.\u00a0 Let yourself calm down.\u00a0 You don\u2019t have to be right or win the argument.\u00a0 It just doesn\u2019t matter that much.<\/li>\n
    8. Little things stick with you.<\/strong>\u00a0So pay attention to them.\u00a0 Like watching your child sleep.\u00a0 Preparing a meal with your family.\u00a0 Sharing a great laugh with an old friend.\u00a0 That is the real stuff life is made of.<\/li>\n
    9. Keep having fun.<\/strong>\u00a0Fun is way underrated.\u00a0 With all of our responsibilities, fun seems like an indulgence.\u00a0 It shouldn\u2019t be.\u00a0 It should be a requirement.\u00a0 Remember what you did to have fun when you were younger, and go do it again.\u00a0 Leave the house messy and the yard un-mowed for the weekend.\u00a0 You will remember the fun, not the clean house or yard.\u00a0 Make time for fun.<\/li>\n
    10. Make things simpler.<\/strong>\u00a0Pick the five most important things in your life now, and focus on those things.\u00a0 Let the other stuff go.\u00a0 Let go of the activities, the events, the commitments, the shopping, the to-do lists.\u00a0 Stop the busyness and really enjoy the important things you have right now.<\/li>\n
    11. Keep your brain active.\u00a0<\/strong>Don\u2019t get into a mental rut.\u00a0 Do new things, learn new things, explore new ideas in all areas of your life.\u00a0 Keep challenging yourself and your mind.\u00a0 Be curious and interested in the world around you.<\/li>\n
    12. Hang out with younger people.<\/strong>\u00a0Stay connected with what the generation behind you is doing and thinking.\u00a0 Establish friendships with them.\u00a0 You will benefit and learn from each other.\u00a0 Don\u2019t act superior, because younger people may know a whole lot more than you do!<\/li>\n
    13. Keep exercising and eating healthy.<\/strong>\u00a0You know this, but I\u2019ll remind you anyway.\u00a0 The older you get, the more important a healthy lifestyle is.\u00a0 In my 20\u2019s, I could shovel down a Wendy\u2019s hamburger and fries every day and never see the difference.\u00a0 Now I just look at a hamburger and my butt gets bigger.<\/li>\n
    14. Manage aging, but why fight it?<\/strong>\u00a0You can spend a fortune on face creams, plastic surgery, hair growth formulas, and botox, but eventually you realize you are fighting an uphill battle.\u00a0 Groom yourself nicely.\u00a0 Stay fit.\u00a0 Have unsightly things removed.\u00a0 But accept the beauty of aging.\u00a0 A striking mature man or woman is much more attractive than someone who looks overly taunt, tanned or top-heavy.<\/li>\n
    15. Everyone doesn\u2019t have to like you and vice versa.<\/strong>\u00a0One of my friends likes to say, \u201cShe\u2019s not in my cluster.\u201d\u00a0 Sometimes there are people in your life who are just not the right fit or who drain you dry.\u00a0 It is fine to back off from them or even let them go.<\/li>\n
    16. Marriages evolve and change.\u00a0<\/strong>The feelings you had for the man or woman you married will mutate and evolve several times over the life of a marriage.\u00a0 Hopefully you will evolve in the same direction or at least embrace and accept the changes in the other person.\u00a0 It takes work, and sometimes it takes counseling.\u00a0 Don\u2019t gloss over those changes or you may wake up next to a stranger one day.<\/li>\n
    17. Yes, you can still have great sex.<\/strong>\u00a0When I was in my 20\u2019s, I thought you stopped doing it when you were in your early 40\u2019s.\u00a0 I assumed middle aged people would no longer want to disrobe in front of each other.\u00a0 I\u2019m happy to inform you that this is not the case.<\/li>\n
    18. Tend to your friendships.<\/strong>\u00a0Especially your oldest friendships.\u00a0 These are the people who know and love you best, in spite of your flaws.\u00a0 Treat them like the precious gems they are.<\/li>\n
    19. Stop worrying.<\/strong>\u00a0Worry does absolutely nothing productive.\u00a0 In fact, it is counterproductive.\u00a0 The more you worry, the more you reinforce the problem or concern in your brain.<\/li>\n
    20. Everything is not always black or white.<\/strong>\u00a0Life is often very ambiguous.\u00a0 Sometimes there isn\u2019t a right or wrong decision or choice.\u00a0 Things are not always completely clear.\u00a0 You may not get THE answer, so you just have to wing it.<\/li>\n
    21. Take action on your dreams.<\/strong>\u00a0If you\u2019ve been putting things off \u2014 a new career, more education, the big trip \u2014 start taking action right now to make it happen.\u00a0 Don\u2019t dream about it anymore.\u00a0 Start doing it.<\/li>\n
    22. Don\u2019t dwell on your wounds.<\/strong>\u00a0Everyone has something that has caused pain and has been limiting them in some way.\u00a0 If you need help to deal with it, then get it right away.\u00a0 Don\u2019t let the past limit your future.<\/li>\n
    23. Embrace change.<\/strong>\u00a0As uncomfortable as it is sometimes, change allows us to stretch and grow.\u00a0 New things feel awkward and scary at first, but those feelings go away, and you are left with something bigger and bolder in your life.<\/li>\n
    24. Be vulnerable.<\/strong>\u00a0Allow yourself to feel, to be open and authentic.\u00a0 Tear down any emotional brick walls you have built around yourself and feel every exquisite emotion, both good and bad.\u00a0 This is real life.\u00a0 This is how you welcome new opportunities.<\/li>\n
    25. Count your blessings every day<\/strong>.\u00a0 I know, this is a refrigerator magnet line, but practice it daily anyway.\u00a0 There is so much good, so much beauty, so much love in your life.\u00a0 What more do you really need?\u00a0 You have so much right now, you just need to pause long enough to appreciate it.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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